Ask Dr. Manfroy
How much is too much when it comes to my child's extracurricular activities?
Extracurricular activities offer many benefits for school-age children and adolescents. Many studies document their positive effects on self-esteem, peer relations, educational aspirations and academic achievement. Structured after-school activities also lessen problem behaviors such as cutting classes, alcohol and drug abuse and dropping out of school. One study even showed that athletes had higher overall GPAs in-season versus out-of-season, despite obvious increased time demands.
When does too much of a good thing become a problem? Parents eager to provide a childhood rich in experiences may enroll their children in multiple activities at a time. Even 3- and 4-year-olds are whisked from soccer to tumbling to swim lessons. Older children may over-burden themselves with extracurricular activities while trying to keep up with their peers. The result, research suggests, is a country teeming with over-scheduled kids.
The Downside of Over-Scheduling
Some psychologists believe over-scheduling young kids can lead to stress disorders. Others worry a lack of free time will restrict children's creativity, imagination and personality development. The biggest casualty of over-scheduling may be family time. Lost in the nightly shuffle are family dinners, visits to relatives and simply time to hang out together as kin.
Alvin Rosenfeld, MD, a leading expert on overscheduled children, points to research suggesting that what children need most are relationships, not activities. He implores parents to spend meaningful time with their children, instead of acting as their chauffeurs. He suggests families plan at least one activity-free night per month to reconnect.
What are some signs your child may be over-scheduled? Look for a child who is frequently tired, irritable, sluggish or has frequent stomachaches or headaches. Some kids may repeatedly protest participating in further activities.
You or other family members may feel exhausted or stressed in trying to meet the demands of an unrealistic schedule. Parents of children who are constantly on the go may be as frustrated by the lack of quality time together as their children.
If this sounds familiar, consider sitting down with your children to re-organize your schedules. Limit kids' activities to one per season, and make family time a priority.
Pierre Manfroy, MD, is a local pediatrician with Northeast Pediatrics, serving as an editorial consultant for Young and Healthy.
