One of the first decisions you will need to make is which funeral home to use. If you do not know a funeral director, ask family members, neighbors or someone in your faith community. They can help you identify someone they are familiar with or have used in the past. It’s also important to know that some funeral homes may provide services for infants at cost. Discuss your financial concerns with the funeral director to see what type of assistance is available.
If you are from out of state, you will want to identify a funeral home from your home area. It will work with a Cincinnati-based funeral home to bring your child’s body back to your home town.
If you are a member of a religious community (church, synagogue, mosque), you may wish to contact the clergy person from your congregation. This person can assist you in making arrangements for the service.
A funeral, memorial or committal service can take place at a funeral home, church, congregation or at the graveside. A funeral director will work with you to make these arrangements.
There are two basic options available for you to consider: burial and cremation.
If you choose to have your child’s body buried, you will need to think about several things as you select a cemetery:
- Is it near your home so you can visit?
- Does it meet your religious or cultural requirements?
- Is maintenance included in the cost?
- Is there additional space for other family members?
- What are the restrictions on type of monument, plants, flowers or decorations you can put on the grave?
A funeral director will be able to help answer your questions and provide the detailed information you need to make your decisions.
Some parents prefer the option of cremation. It’s usually less costly than burial and you have the option of burying, keeping or scattering your child’s ashes. If you choose cremation, you may still have calling hours, viewing and a memorial service. Cremation may be the more practical choice if you plan to move out of the area at some time.