Doctor Gives Advice on How to Raise a Thankful Child During the Holiday Season

Tuesday, November 24, 2015

With the holiday season upon us, many people are looking forward to the food and gifts that comes along with the holidays. Dr. Amie Duncan, a psychologist at Cincinnati Children’s Hospital Medical Center, wants to remind families to take time to be grateful and reinforce gratitude in their children.

“The holiday season is another opportunity afforded us each and every year to teach our children about gratitude,” said Duncan. “Children model the adults in their lives. Gratitude or the giving of thanks is a particular focus this time of year, and with it we have an opportunity for growth for our children in this aspect of their development.”  

It is important to foster gratitude year round, says Duncan, but she points out that it is a particularly important lesson this time of year.

In the midst of the hustle and bustle of Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas, Kwanzaa and all of the other celebrations, Duncan suggests the following tips on how to help a child understand the concepts of thankfulness during the holidays.

  • Model gratitude everywhere. Embrace thankfulness.
  • Live with an “attitude of gratitude.” Remember to say “thank you” to people no matter how big or small their assistance to you. 
  • Praise your child when he or she demonstrates or expresses gratitude. When we positively reinforce and praise good behavior, our children are more likely to repeat them.
  • Encourage children to help others. Model this behavior. Explain to the child what you are doing when you contribute to a charity, collect food for the food-bank or perform other acts of giving. Allow them the opportunity to experience giving freely. Use those situations to explain the needs of others to the child. Combine charity and gratitude. Consider doing this together!
  • Remember that being thankful is not only for holiday times. Consider other opportunities for the child to acknowledge people and things he or she is grateful for in his or her life. Kindness and generosity are in abundance this time of year and throughout the year.

Finally, teach children gratitude by word and by deed. Unexpected acts of kindness, holding a door open, saying thank you, and writing or drawing a thank you note are all simple ways to help children develop gratitude.

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